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Episode 24: Identity Reinvention:

Episode 24: Identity Reinvention:

Crafting a New Narrative for Weight Loss Success

Last week we talked about breaking bad habits and I touched on the fact that sometimes this can be especially hard because instead of trying to work on the bad habit we need to work on our identity and beliefs.  Today we are going to see if your identity or your beliefs could be the thing that is holding you back. We will talk about self-awareness and a few practices that you can use to get you headed on the right path.

I think this is something that is overlooked and might be relevant if you are a person who has been overweight most of their life or a very long time.  That is later in the ritual.

Welcome, I am glad to have you hear today.  As we settle in tell us who are you! Like what is your identity?

Hello, my name is Deanna. I am a dedicated wife and a loving dog mom. I find great joy in traveling and exploring the outdoors, and I have a keen interest in organizing things, cleaning, and crafting. In my professional life, I hold a regular job that keeps me busy. But outside of that, I have a hobby that I am passionate about, which is creating content for YouTube. As a person, I would describe myself as mostly introverted, though I do have my moments of being emotional and fun!

Welcome to The Saturday Morning Ritual


When I was a kid my Saturday Morning Ritual was watching cartoons, now my Saturday Morning Ritual is to take time for me.  To reflect on the past week and set strategies for the week ahead.

  • “Two heads are better than one”  That is why we join together as a supportive community to support our intentional growth.

  • A special place where you can celebrate your success and grow from challenges.

  • Keep you accountable and committed to goals and feel supported along the way

  • Develop and hone your self-awareness and Adventure Mindset

  • Overcome obstacles and challenges that keep you from reaching your potential

First, we have a ritual - Brain Body Connection, Success and Setbacks and then more on TOPIC of THE WEEK

Brain Body Connection -

Movement is considered the human being’s first language. Movements strengthen the neural pathways between the brain and body. Learning, thought, creativity, and intelligence are not processes of the brain alone but the whole body.

Movement Exercise -

Importance of Community -

  • Support and Safety

  • Connection and Belonging

  • Influence - Community can influence and motivate us to invest in our well-being and bring positive change.

  • Learning

  • Acceptance

  • Sharing

First Up - Let's take a look at the past week

Success - Share Your Non-Scale Victories

Journal Exercise -

When you think about your success this week.  What do they say about you?

You can do hard things.

You are driven

You are committed and follow through

Pitfalls - Let's let go of the pitfalls

we can learn from them but we don't want to hold onto them

When our beliefs and expectations influence our behavior at the subconscious level, we are enacting what is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Some argue that this shows up in


A more modern example would be Darth Vader in the Star Wars films, or Lord Voldemort in the Harry Potter franchise each attempted to take steps to prevent action against them which had been predicted could cause their downfall, but instead created the conditions leading to it.[citation needed]

Journal Exercise -

If you had to guess that you had a belief that led to your setback this week what would it be?

  • I can’t change my eating habits, I have tried.

  • There is no point in trying, I’ll just gain it all back.

  • I just look at food and gain weight.

  • Food makes me feel so good.

  • No matter how much I get, I still want more.

  • Once my cravings start there is no way I can resist

  • Sometimes I just can’t control myself

  • I am just not good enough

  • I don’t feel safe leaving my comfort zone.

  • I feel deeply deprived and eating is my only pleasure.

  • I don’t deserve to look better

  • I’ll never be thinner no matter what I do.

  • I just always want what I can’t have

  • I feel deprived of all the good things that everyone else gets

  • Everyone else can eat whatever they want, but I can’t.

  • I’ll never make it to my goal.

  • My body refuses to leave this plateau.

  • I just can’t get a break

  • This is so unfair

  • I am afraid of the attention I will get.

  • I am better off alone.

  • No matter what I do it is not good enough.

  • no amount of food will ever satisfy me.

  • Nobody appreciates me

  • I can’t stand always having to be the strong one.

  • I hate myself for not being able to lose this weight

  • I dread exercise it is stupid

  • I worked out today so I can eat more

  • My body wasn't built to exercise

  • I am afraid of what might happen if I lose this weight.

  • I am afraid to change

  • If I lose weight I won’t be myself anymore

  • I won’t be able to protect myself if I am thin

The Topic of The Week-

When I described myself earlier I said that  I am Hello, my name is Deanna. I am a dedicated wife and a loving dog mom. I find great joy in traveling and exploring the outdoors, and I have a keen interest in organizing things, cleaning, and crafting. In my professional life, I hold a regular job that keeps me busy. But outside of that, I have a hobby that I am passionate about, which is creating content for YouTube. As a person, I would describe myself as mostly introverted, though I do have my moments of being emotional and fun!

You might notice that I included my roles in life, my hobbies, and how I think others see me.  All make up my identity or my self-concept.

My identity and your has been molded over the years and is based on many factors. How we were brought up, who we hang out with, past experiences,  and feedback we have received from others.   How I see myself my self-esteem self- image or self-concept is one of those things that has always been hard for me.  I think people see me one way but do they?

This topic can get pretty deep into self-image and self esteem and self-awareness.

The important thing here is that your identity your self concept is not set in stone you can change it.

Once upon a time, there was a woman named Lily. Lily had always been a bit heavier than her peers, and she had grown up identifying as the "big girl" in her group of friends. She never saw herself as athletic or active, and would often shy away from physical activities.

As she grew older, she noticed that this self-image was affecting her health and overall happiness. She was frequently out of breath, had trouble moving around, and her doctor warned her about the potential health risks if she continued with her current lifestyle.

One day, Lily had an epiphany. She realized that her identity as the "big girl" was not something that was forced upon her, but rather something she had chosen to accept and believe about herself. She decided that she wanted to change this identity.

She started by changing her self-talk. Every morning, instead of looking in the mirror and seeing herself as the "big girl", she would tell herself, "I am a healthy and active woman". She replaced her negative beliefs with positive affirmations.

Lily also started to take small steps towards becoming more active. She started going for short walks around her neighborhood. Soon, those short walks turned into longer ones, and eventually, she started jogging.

The change did not happen overnight. There were days when she doubted herself and her ability to change. But she persisted, constantly reminding herself of her new identity as a healthy and active woman.

Over time, Lily started to see changes. She was losing weight, had more energy, and was happier overall. More importantly, she started to truly see herself as a healthy and active person. Her self-image had changed, and it had a profound impact on her life.

Lily's story is a testament to the power of changing one's identity and beliefs. It illustrates that with determination and consistent effort, it is possible to change our self-image for the better.

Solutions to Change Your Beliefs and Identity


Journaling can be a powerful tool for changing your beliefs and identity. By writing down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, you can gain a deeper understanding of your current beliefs and identity. This self-awareness is the first step towards change.

Start by journaling about your current beliefs and how they are affecting your life. Be honest and thorough. Once you've identified these beliefs, challenge them. Are they really true? How do they help or hinder you?

Next, define your new beliefs and identity. Write them down as clear, positive statements. For example, instead of writing, "I'm not a runner," write, "I am becoming more physically active every day."

Use your journal to track progress towards your new identity. Celebrate your successes and reflect on your challenges. Over time, you'll start to see a shift in your beliefs and identity.

Remember, changing your beliefs and identity is a process. Be patient with yourself and keep journaling. With time and consistent effort, you can create a new, empowering identity.


Reframing is a powerful technique that can help you change your identity and beliefs. It's about changing the way you look at things, putting a new perspective on your thoughts and experiences. For example, if you identify as someone who's not athletic, you can reframe this belief by focusing on the positive steps you're taking to become more active, like going for a walk or taking a dance class. Instead of saying "I'm not athletic," you can say "I'm becoming more active every day."

Reframing is not about denying reality, but about finding a more positive, empowering way to view your experiences. It's about shifting your mindset to see opportunities for growth and learning, rather than obstacles and setbacks. This can help you develop a more positive identity and more empowering beliefs, which can support your overall well-being and success.

Positive Self Talk

Positive self-talk is a powerful tool for shaping our identity and beliefs. It involves replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, which can foster a more positive self-image and belief system.

Start by being aware of your self-talk. If it's mostly negative, work on shifting it. For example, if you constantly tell yourself, "I can't lose weight," replace it with, "I am capable of making healthy choices and losing weight."

Remember to be patient with yourself. Changing your self-talk, like any other habit, takes time and practice. Eventually, the positive messages will become a natural part of your thought process, influencing your actions and helping to shape a more positive identity and set of beliefs.

Additionally, use affirmations – positive statements about yourself and your abilities, said with confidence. These can reinforce the positive self-talk and help you to start believing in your ability to change. For example, repeat affirmations like, "I am strong and healthy," or "Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better."

By consistently practicing positive self-talk, you reinforce these positive beliefs in your mind, which then influences your behavior and actions, ultimately helping you to adopt a healthier lifestyle or achieve other personal goals.


Realistic Goal Setting


We Are Not Failing We Are Planning

What's the Plan for the week?

Any Challenges?

Any Outings?

Weather things?

Journal Exercise -

If you want to shift your identity and or beliefs, what techniques will you use?

Let’s make a plan for who you will be in the future.     What Identity and beliefs do they have?

Wrap Up

  • Stay curious, stay determined, and until next time, keep writing, keep exploring, and keep losing those pounds!

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