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Episode 21: Give Yourself  The Gift of Kindness -

Episode 21: Give Yourself The Gift of Kindness -

Stop Criticizing! Start Approving!


Brain Body Connection -

Movement is considered the human being’s first language. Movements strengthen the neural pathways between the brain and body. Learning, thought, creativity, and intelligence are not processes of the brain alone but the whole body.

Movement Exercise -

Importance of Community -

  • Support and Safety

  • Connection and Belonging

  • Influence - Community can influence and motivate us to invest in our well-being and bring positive change.

  • Learning

  • Acceptance

  • Sharing

First Up - Let's take a look at the past week

Success - Share Your Non-Scale Victories

Journal Exercise -

What values, personality traits, or beliefs helped you with your achievement?

Pitfalls - Let's let go of the pitfalls

What is a setback, side-step, or sand trap that you had this week?

Journal Exercise -

How does this make you feel? What do you think about this?

What was your inner dialogue?

The Topic of The Week- Stop Criticizing! Start Approving!

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and we often talk about Self-Care.  Three things just as important as Self Care are

  1. Self Compassion

  2. Self Awareness

  3. Self Belief

Self Compassion

Self-compassion refers to the act of treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and acceptance, especially in times of difficulty or failure. It involves acknowledging one's own suffering or challenges without judgment or self-criticism. Self-compassion is about extending the same care and support to oneself that one would offer to a close friend or loved one. It involves being understanding and patient with oneself, and recognizing that imperfection and setbacks are a normal part of the human experience. By cultivating self-compassion, individuals can foster resilience, emotional well-being, and a healthier relationship with themselves.

Know yourself better, like yourself more, and have the ability to back yourself.

Self-compassion is not using willpower and Mental Muscle - It is not beating yourself up!

It is about extending the same care and support to oneself that one would offer to a close friend or loved one.

In our journaling prompt earlier about setbacks what did you write down?

I will never get this, I suck, I am such a failure, I am so weak, what a joke thinking I could.  Bad Advice - You might as well wait till Monday, This whole plan is all wrong

If someone came to you and said they were having a rough time what would you say?

If someone tells you that they are having a hard time and they have disappointed there self.  We try and help them get back on track as quickly as possible.  We give them the belief that they can do this.  You can do this, Learn from this, and move on, I believe in you, You don’t have to wait to start again.

Self-compassion is a skill that we need to practice to get good at it.  Being kind to yourself is not doing whatever you want whenever you want to do it.  It is talking yourself into doing the hard things over and over again until it is easy.  You are just training yourself to do something.  We need to be patient and understanding and at the same time firm and clear on what needs to be done.  When you practice it then becomes easier.

To be more compassionate with ourselves it helps to have more self-awareness.

We sometimes have unhelpful messages like I can’t do this.  I am just the sort of person that………  When I tell myself this, do I follow it up with a helpful action? Self-knowledge will help us to know what are our triggers. What tests us? How does this behavior serve us?

Are we making plans based on who we are now or who we are inspired to be?

What is comfortable, familiar, and safe about the way you are now?   Is it possible that not achieving your goals yet helps you delay the things you don’t real to do?  Is it enabling you to put off the discomfort of new habits and routines?

I know why this is hard.

Self Awareness - Insight Tasha Eurich

To know oneself and know how others see us.  1. Internal 2. External -   Understanding how others see us.  Hardly any relationship between the 2.

Internal self-awareness refers to having a clear understanding of one's own thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values, and motivations. It involves being in touch with one's own emotions and being able to accurately assess one's strengths and weaknesses. Internal self-awareness allows individuals to have a deeper understanding of themselves and their own actions.

External self-awareness, on the other hand, refers to having an understanding of how others perceive and experience us. It involves being aware of the impact one's behavior has on others and being able to accurately assess how others see us. External self-awareness allows individuals to have insights into how their actions and behaviors affect their relationships and interactions with others.

Both internal and external self-awareness are important for personal growth and development. They can help individuals make better decisions, improve their relationships, and enhance their overall well-being.

We need insight into our values such as honesty, humility, fairness

  • Another insight - passions

  • Fit - what environment makes us happiest

  • Patterns - The things that make up our personality

  • Reactions  - The emotional and - controlling emotions under stress

  • Impact - How our behavior affects others

Self-belief is the belief and confidence in oneself and one's abilities. It is the understanding that you are capable of achieving your goals and making positive changes in your life. Self-belief involves having faith in your own potential, trusting your instincts, and persevering even when faced with challenges or setbacks.

Have you ever gone to a job interview where you fully believed that you were a good fit for the job no question? On The Flip side have you ever gone to a job interview where maybe you weren’t that confident?  Reflecting on that do you think you showed up differently when you believed, you knew, vs when you were not quote sure?

Building self-belief is a gradual process that involves taking small steps and making choices that align with your goals and values. It is about acknowledging your achievements, celebrating your successes, and learning from your failures. By consistently making positive choices and embracing a growth mindset, you can strengthen your self-belief and cultivate a sense of empowerment.

Having self-belief is essential for personal growth, as it enables you to take risks, overcome obstacles, and pursue your aspirations. It helps you develop resilience, overcome self-doubt, and stay motivated during difficult times. With self-belief, you can approach challenges with a positive mindset and believe in your ability to overcome them.

Remember, self-belief is not about being perfect or never experiencing self-doubt. It is about acknowledging your worth, embracing your strengths, and having the confidence to take action and pursue your dreams. By nurturing self-belief, you can cultivate a strong sense of self and create a fulfilling and purposeful life.

Self-Belief - All you need to believe is that you are capable of making one hard choice at a time.

We Build our self-belief one choice at a time.

We Are Not Failing We Are Planning

What's the Plan for the week?

Any Challenges?

Any Outings?

Weather things?

Journal Exercise -

Wrap Up

“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”— Christopher Germer

“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”— Louise L. Hay

  • Stay curious, stay determined, and until next time, keep writing, keep exploring, and keep losing those pounds!

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